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My Husband Cheated in Korean, Thinking I Couldn't Understand. At His Dad's Funeral, I Answered. My husband's Korean family laughed at me in Korean every Sunday for five years, sure the adopted girl with the Korean face and the American accent couldn't follow—but I had spent those same five years secretly learning Korean to find my birth mother, and not even my own parents knew. The week I got a positive pregnancy test, my husband promised in English to come to my first appointment, then told his ex in Korean, "That weekend I'll be in Palm Springs. She'll never know." I smiled and saved every word for his father's funeral. My husband laughed at me in Korean at my own table—while I was serving his father's birthday soup. I set the pot down in the middle of the table. Miyeokguk. Seaweed soup, the kind every Korean mother makes on a birthday. I had cut the beef by hand at six that morning. Steam rose between the candles. "얼굴만 한국 사람이네." Only her face is Korean. That was Soojin, his ex. His first love. She sat at my husband's elbow in pale pink silk, smiling up at me like we were friends. Eleven people laughed. My husband, Daniel, laughed too. Then he leaned back in his chair, easy as breathing, and tossed in one more line. "그러니까 팜스프링스엔 안 데려가지." That's why we don't take her to Palm Springs. The laughing got louder. Somebody's chopsticks clattered onto a plate. His sister slapped the table. His mother pressed her napkin to her lips, the way she does when something is really good. They had no idea I understood every word. I kept my smile on. I always keep it on. My ladle didn't spill a drop. I filled Soojin's bowl first, because she was the guest. "There's more rice in the kitchen," I said. It was Thursday, October 2, in my own dining room in Hancock Park. My father-in-law was turning sixty-five. I call him Appa. The cancer had taken his hair and half his body. He wore the gray knit cap I'd bought him, because his head got cold even in LA. At the head of the table, Appa put down his spoon. "그만해." Stop it. He said it low, without looking up. For one breath, nobody moved. Then his mother patted his hand, the way you pat a sick man who wants quiet. The laughing started up again. They thought the noise was bothering him. I knew better. He was trying to stop them. Out of eleven people, I was the only one who heard what he meant. He didn't say it for me. He didn't know I could understand. Nobody in that house did. Across the table, Daniel reached for more kimchi. He didn't look at his father. He didn't look at me. He was still grinning at Soojin, like the joke was theirs and the soup was mine. I picked up the ladle again. My hand was steady. I made sure of it. Appa ate two full bowls. It was more than he'd eaten all week. When he was done, he wiped his mouth and looked down the long table at me. "Best soup, Hannah-ya," he said in English. I nodded and took his bowl. Here is what they never asked. I was born in Seoul. At eighteen months old, I was put on a plane to Minnesota. A white Lutheran couple met me at the gate with a pink snowsuit. They gave me hotdish and church suppers and all the love they had. They could not give me Korean. At my engagement party, five years ago, I tried anyway. I memorized a short toast from a video. I practiced it for a week. Then I stood up and said it to his whole family. His mother set down her glass. "한국 얼굴에 미국 입." A Korean face with an American mouth. The room went silent. Then Soojin smiled at me over her wine. "So—no," she said in English. Everyone laughed. Daniel laughed. I never said one Korean word in front of them again. But I started learning. Not for them. For her. Somewhere in Korea is a woman who gave me away. I don't know her name. I have one sentence saved for her, and only her. "저 잘 컸어요." I grew up well. For five years, I have gotten up at five. I drive to the small catering kitchen I rent for work. I put in earbuds and talk to a teacher in Seoul on video while the dough rises. Daniel sleeps until eight. My Korean notebook stays in a drawer at that kitchen. It has never come home. My parents don't know either. When I was sixteen, I asked Mom about my birth mother. She cried all night behind her bedroom door. I never asked again. Daniel grew up speaking Korean. He is fluent. In five years, he has never said one Korean word to me. Why would he? Everyone knows I can't follow. They left at eleven. Daniel kissed my cheek and went up to shower. I stayed down to clean. His iPad sits on a stand on the kitchen counter. I use it as a recipe holder. It's synced to his KakaoTalk, but I never look. My soup recipe was still open on the screen when a banner slid down from the top. 강씨네 The Kangs. 11 members. I counted the names. I counted them again. Not me. My hands were wet. I wiped them on my apron. Then I opened it. Near the bottom was a voice clip. I pressed play. It was me. Last spring, his mother said a good daughter-in-law calls her 어머님. Mother. Just that one word. So I recorded myself saying it the American way, flat and careful. I made it sound like I was trying hard and getting it wrong. I sent it to Daniel to ask if it was right. His sister had cut it into a loop with a drum beat. My voice, over and over. Uh-muh-nim. Uh-muh-nim. Uh-muh-nim. Under it, a row of crying-laughing faces. Then Soojin. "외국인 같아." Sounds like a foreigner. I scrolled up. I hoped Daniel had stayed out of it. Higher up, Soojin had posted about his grandfather. That's his mother's father, the Chairman of Seorin Beauty in Seoul. "할아버지 사투리 진짜 시골 영감 같아." Grandpa talks like a country old man. Under it, Daniel had answered. ㅋㅋㅋ Korean for lol. My thumb started to shake. I pressed it flat against the glass until it quit. I took a screenshot. Then another. Then twenty more. I sent every one to my phone with AirDrop. That little whoosh was the loudest sound in the house. Overhead, the water stopped running. I put the iPad back on its stand, the soup recipe open, right where it had been. Then I went into the downstairs bathroom and locked the door. A test had been riding in the bottom of my purse for two days. I'd been waiting for a good night. This was not one. I took it anyway. I sat on the edge of the tub and watched the little window. Two pink lines. About six weeks, by my count. I held it in both hands. I pictured a baby at that long table. A baby learning to laugh when the grown-ups laughed. Laughing at me. My phone buzzed. Daniel, from upstairs. "Coming to bed, babe?" "In a minute," I typed. My phone is set to English. Everything in my life is. I opened my doctor's page and booked the first open slot. My first prenatal visit, at eight weeks. Mon, Oct 13. 9 a.m. In the notes box, I typed two words. Ask D. One chance. That was all he had left. …… On Friday, Daniel came home early with a small white box. 호두과자. Walnut cakes from the bakery in Koreatown. They only make them on weekends. They are my favorite, and he had driven across town to beg for a box on a Friday. "For my girl," he said, and kissed the top of my head. He opened his wallet on the counter and peeled off cash for groceries. "Get whatever you want this weekend." I reached for the bills. Behind his driver's license, folded soft and yellow, was a recipe card. My round handwriting. Our first kimchi jjigae, five years ago, in his tiny Koreatown apartment. Gochujang: one spoon for courage. Don't rush the kimchi. That first winter, I couldn't find the right red pepper flakes. He drove to three H Marts after midnight until he did. We cooked rice in an $11 rice cooker. He ate three bowls standing at the stove, still in his coat. His nose ran from the heat. He kept saying, "One more," like a kid. That night he wrote on the back of my card while I washed the pot. The card had gone thin at the folds. I could see his neat block letters through the back. Tastes like home. Five years. Behind his license. Every single day. I set the walnut cakes on the counter. I didn't open the box. The ribbon stayed tied. He came up behind me and wrapped his arms around my waist, the way he used to. He smelled like someone's perfume, all lilies. Not mine. "You okay?" he said into my hair. "Tired." "Take the weekend off. Next weekend I'm gone anyway." He kissed my neck. "The Seoul people are in San Francisco. Friday to Sunday. I'll be back Monday morning. For sure." "San Francisco," I said. Last night, at my own table, he'd said Palm Springs. In Korean. To everyone but me. For one second, my body leaned back into his chest. Then I pulled it upright. I put two bowls of rice on the table. He sat. I sat. "Daniel," I said. "Do you want kids?" He looked up. "Sure." "Soon?" He laughed and picked up his chopsticks. "Sure. They'll go to Korean school every Saturday. Learn real Korean. Not—" He waved his hand at me. "Not like me," I said. "I didn't say that." He was still smiling. "Your Korean face is cute, babe. It's just not, you know. Real." I put my spoon down. The rice in my bowl had gone cold. I looked at it instead of him. "Monday the thirteenth," I said. "Nine a.m. A follow-up with my doctor." His smile slipped. "Everything okay?" "I'm scared." My voice broke on the word. I hadn't planned that. "I need you there." He reached across the table and closed his hand over mine. "Of course," he said. "Of course I'll be there." He looked right into my eyes. He held on. For that one second, I think he even meant it. His phone lit up on the table between our bowls. A message slid across the screen. Soojin. "팜스프링스 얘기 했어?" Did you tell her about Palm Springs? Daniel flipped the phone face down. Fast. His thumb stayed on it a second too long. "Work," he said, and went back to his rice. That night, he fell asleep with one arm over his face. His phone lit up twice on the nightstand. Both times, it showed her name and a little yellow sun. I picked his shirt up off the floor. Still lilies. I folded it anyway and set it on the chair. I lay on my side in the dark, one hand flat on my stomach. There was nothing to feel yet. Just me. Ten days, I thought. He said he'd be there.On Sunday, we had dinner at his mother's house in San Marino. I brought a pecan pie. I always bring something. His mother took it at the door with two fingers, like a wet umbrella. "How thoughtful," she said in English. Then she turned to the housekeeper and spoke Korean. "직원들 먹으라고 해." Give it to the staff. I smiled and took off my coat. The housekeeper carried my pie away. She was the only one in that house who never laughed at me. Soojin was already in the living room, in cream silk, laughing with Daniel by the window. "Hannah! You look so tired," she said in English, and kissed the air near my cheek. His mother sat at the head of the table. Soojin sat at her right hand. I had never once been asked to sit there. I sat at the far end, by the kitchen door. Appa sat across from me in his knit cap. Over the fish soup, his mother tapped her glass. "I have news," she said. "Next month, my father flies in from Seoul. The Chairman will sign the papers himself. Our Soojin will run the new Seorin Beauty line here." Daniel was president of Seorin Beauty's US branch. Everyone clapped. I clapped. Then his mother brought a velvet box out of her lap. I knew that box. It held old green jade, the bangle of the Chairman's late wife. She had never let me touch it. "This goes to the mother of the next Kang," she said. "Until then, someone needs to keep it safe." She pushed it over Soojin's hand, onto her wrist. Soojin turned her arm in the candlelight. "I'll take good care of it." My phone buzzed against my plate. The screen lit up. +82. A number from Korea. His sister leaned over and read it. She laughed and spoke in Korean. "누가 쟤한테 한국에서 전화를 해?" Who'd call her from Korea? His mother didn't even look up from her soup. "버린 애를 누가 찾아." Who goes looking for a child they threw away? The whole table laughed. Daniel laughed into his napkin. Appa set down his spoon. "그만해." Stop it. They laughed a little less. Nobody stopped. I pressed the red button. "Spam," I said, and turned the phone face down. It wasn't spam. It was the office in Seoul that helps adopted kids find their birth families. I had sent them my papers in the spring. I had just hung up on them. That night I called back from the car. A social worker in Seoul said my file was still missing papers. I would have to wait. Then the soup smell hit me. Fish and garlic and hot oil. My stomach rolled. I stood up too fast. "I burned my hand earlier," I said. "I need some ice." I made it to the kitchen sink before I threw up. I ran the water hard to cover the sound. I got a bag of frozen peas from the freezer. I held it on the back of my hand, so the burn would look real. When I turned around, there was a bowl on the counter. Plain broth, hot, no fish. A spoon beside it. The housekeeper was already at the back door, drying her hands. She didn't say anything. I carried the bowl out to the table. I didn't sit down. "Daniel," I said. Everyone looked up. "The thirteenth. You'll come?" He smiled at me, warm and easy, in front of everyone. "I'll be there," he said in English. Then he turned to Soojin. He lowered his voice, but not much. He didn't need to. As far as he knew, I was the only person at that table who couldn't follow. "그 주말엔 팜스프링스에 있을 거야. 쟤는 절대 모를 거야." That weekend I'll be in Palm Springs. She'll never know. Soojin laughed into her wine. The jade bangle slid down her wrist and clicked against the glass. I sat down. I put the frozen peas in my lap. I picked up my spoon. Under the table, with one thumb, I typed every word he'd said into the notes on my phone. In Korean, letter by letter, exactly the way he'd said it. Then I saved it, and I finished my soup.
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